Being Married Yet Alone

Marriage is a beautiful institution ordained by God. According to the Bible a man will leave his father and mother in become one with his wife. Which is what we all assume, but it is not always the case. In the paragraph below I will attempt to discuss how you can be married and still feel alone.

I often hear couples saying that they are married to their best friends. What about if you are one of the unlucky ones to be married to your enemies. Not trying to be sarcastic but I have encountered many different types of people who are not blessed to have their best friends as their spouses. The first thing I am going to tell you that is it Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife (Proverbs 21:19). This verse is very direct and to the point, now no one wants a nagging wife. However, we have to go a little deeper in understanding why a wife might find herself nagging. There are key elements to a successful marriage.

The most important aspect is communication. There are a lot of instances the main problem with couples is communication they simply do not know how to express their feelings to one another. This is from experience communication is not about the talking but the listening. Also, how one react afterwards. Imagination telling your spouse about how you feel and he or she does show any real emotions. You can feel alone when you cannot properly communicate with your spouse. We will continue to explore other area where you can feel alone eventhough you are married.

The major one for me is romance. Now the ladies have to agree with me that a romantic husband is a blessing. Now imaging you are in a relationship with someone who is cold and does not know how show affection. Specially if the other partner grave it. That would definitely push a wife to nagging. When there’s no romance the fire will die. This will definitely have a negative impact on a marriage. If you ever read Songs of Songs in the Bible you will understand how important romancing is. A piece from Songs of songs by King Solomon

“Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth—
    for your love is more delightful than wine. Pleasing is the fragrance of your perfumes;
    your name is like perfume poured out.
    No wonder the young women love you! Take me away with you—let us hurry!
    Let the king bring me into his chambers.” That’s deep!

I want to highlight two more which would be quality time and attention. One of the popular thing now days is date night and a lot of couples are doing this. Making time for the one you love is very crucial. I know the amount you spend on something or someone shows that you value it. If you truly love someone you make time for them. If you don’t want to feel alone in a marriage you have devote your time to show your love. Better yet if you don’t want a nagging wife give her your time and attention. Then you will understand that He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the LORD. Hopefully this will help you to love and cherish the love you have.